(Written December 31st into January 1st – but I forgot to post it in all the chaos!)
As one year ends and another year is waiting on the horizon, many of us find ourselves reflecting, remembering, and recalling the things that filled our lives in this past year…and then make promises and resolutions that are well intentioned but usually end up falling short of coming to fruition. Seriously, what is so magical about January 1st? What is it about this day that makes us want to change or believe that all our old ways will suddenly cease to exist because we left it behind along with December 31st?
As I sit here in the Intermediate Cardiac Care Unit ringing in the New Year with my dad, there’s a piece of me that desperately clings to the idea that January 1st instantly resets all of the negative things that have happened in the past 365 days….but the reality is that no matter how many New Year’s Days come and go, nothing will erase the days that have come to pass and no one single day will reset the course of my future.
You see, while this past year (and others) has brought great struggle, heartache, and uncertainty…there has also been incredible joy, promise, and blessing that has blossomed from the seeds of our hardest times.
That being said, I still take the time to reflect upon our journey throughout each year – the highs and lows…and this year is no different.
2012 was a year of flux for our family.
January started out on a real high note (insert sarcasm) with a 2 week hospital stay – probably one of the more scarier ones for me as it involved my heart, high blood pressures (I usually run quite low), and neurocardiogenic crisis. To sum it up in a little nutshell: Hell. I had several more hospitalizations throughout the year…about 8 or 9 this year. I can say, I definitely spent more time than I cared to in the hospital this past year….
I pulled papers to run for Town Meeting Rep….and won a seat representing my precinct AND supported some friends with their campaign for election and re-election:
I got to appear on the Steve Katsos Show (If you haven’t heard of him, you HAVE to check him out!!!!!)
Went to Washington DC for the Immune Deficiency Foundation with Ralph
Held some Blood Drives. Fundraisers, and a Patient Education Meeting…
Went on a Surprise Vacation to Myrtle Beach to fulfill one of Will’s ‘dreams’
Went as a family to the Hole in the Wall Gang Camp
Had some awesome times with friends….
Shared some amazing moments with family…
Celebrated Will’s 9th Birthday
Went to Washington, D.C. to Capitol Hill and the UMDF’s Patient Education Meeting
Did some home renovations
Celebrated birthdays…..
Dabbled in photography…
Had some rough times with the kids….
Will in the hospital after his anaphylaxis to almonds
Finally Celebrated Sasha’s 7th Birthday…..(the first party got canceled because my heart decided to take a vacation which ended up resulting in a ride from the paramedics to LGH and a transfer to MGH).
Was recognized was one of the Top 50 Women in the Greater Lowell Area from the Mill Era til present
Got to surprise Sasha by making her dream come true – she wanted to see Disney at Halloween
Celebrated Veteran’s Day
Remembered those who lost in tragedy….
Got to help a family in need with one of my dear friends, Kurt…and learned a lot about faith and humble love
Started getting ready to record my new album….
And celebrated a lot of holidays….
All in all, this year was one that stretched our love, grew our faith and magnified our HOPE.
So this year begins….with the promise of NEW HOPE, NEW JOY, NEW BLESSINGS….
It was a frigid night in December. The walls inside my house echoed with the pitter patter of little feet as we all anxiously awaited the arrival of Senator Kerry’s Chief of Staff, Drew O’Brien. In true, “Murphy’s Law” fashion, Mother Nature had served up an ice storm to keep things interesting. To our surprise, Drew was adamant on not rescheduling – he stated,
“Your needs don’t stop for an ice storm, so why should I?”
It was only 3 days prior (Friday, December 10th, 2007) that I nervously typed out an email explaining that we needed Senator Kerry’s help. I told him that patients with Primary Immunodeficiency Disease who had Medicare as their insurance were being denied the proper access and coverage to their life saving treatments (gammaglobulin infusions – IVIG) and it was significantly impacting, lessening, or taking their lives. I was SO afraid to hit ‘Send‘ – I mean, what if I didn’t word it right?What if I wasn’t clear enough about the need? What if I messed this up? The Immune Deficiency Foundation (IDF) knew that Senator Kerry would be a huge asset to helping rectify the issue and had reached out to me to make contact and ask for his help….I didn’t know the FIRST thing about how things like this worked…why would they trust ME to do something like this??? But they did…and, I took a leap of faith and went with it. I knew that I wasn’t the only one leaving my comfort zone and asking for help, so I jumped in – both feet first!
Within a few hours, I got a response back from Drew – and he put us on the calendar for the next business day (Monday) to come to my house and hear our story. I excitedly and nervously called my 2 other friends, Michelle and Eleanor and we scheduled an ‘infusion party‘ for that Monday. They too were nervous about what to say/not say – but I told them the same thing that the IDF told me – just be yourself, be honest and trust that they have your best interest at heart….and that’s just what we all did.
When Drew arrived, I introduced him to everyone (6 kids and 6 adults). He got to watch us all set up and begin our infusions, and he had some of Michelle’s delicious cake with coffee while he listened to our stories and the struggles of others. He was kind, compassionate, and just an overall wonderful man. After several hours, it was time for him to leave, and he assured me that he would speak with the Senator and that he felt confident that this was something that the Senator would be willing to learn more about and possibly take on.
A little laugh for us all….
Our 6 Munchkins Infusing
After he left, we all were elated and empowered – it felt good to DO something!
We kept in contact over the new few months, and finally – on March 16th, 2008 – Senator Kerry attended one of our blood drives and made an official public announcement that he would be an Original Sponsor of the Medicare IVIG legislation!
Our family with Senator Kerry
The plaque we gave Senator Kerry (Donated by Etches in Stone)
Will’s preschool teacher coming out to show her support
My first opportunity to share with Senator Kerry my heartfelt gratitude.
Senator Kerry giving Will a squeeze (with Drew in the background on the right)
Presenting Senator Kerry with a plaque recognizing him for his support to the Primary Immunodeficiency Community.
This began a wonderful relationship between Senator Kerry’s (his office and his staff also), the PIDD community and the Immune Deficiency Foundation.
I’ll never forget how, initially, our efforts were met with a bit of cynicism from our patient community – some didn’t feel the need to get involved because they didn’t have Medicare and it didn’t matter to them. I told them that it didn’t directly impact us either, but the reality is that it impacts someone….and that’s enough for me. I tried to explain to them that Medicare sets the standard and other insurance companies follow suit eventually – some understood, others couldn’t be bothered…..I decided that I just needed to focus on the fact that it mattered to those of us who led the charge and we were on a mission!
Because of our ignorance as to how the legislative process works (and often how slow it is) – many of us did not realize just how long of a process this would be – but, one thing was certain – we had a great group of folks locally AND nationally to walk with on this journey.
April 17th, 2008 was my first trip to D.C. – Michelle and I traveled together and Eleanor joined us the next day. It was great to get to meet so many wonderful people, hear their stories, and feel that instant connection with others. The staff at the Immune Deficiency Foundation (IDF) was incredible also. Little did we know, this was only the beginning…..
Marcia Boyle, President and Founder of the Immune Deficiency Foundation with the plaque recognizing Sen. Kerry as our Champion.
We continued to work with legislators over the next several years – going to Capitol Hill yearly and also meeting with our legislators in our home states. Every year we went and asked for support – and, little by little, every year- our support grew.
March 30th, 2009 Capitol Hill Trip
Our Awesome MA group with Kathy Antilla and Marcia Boyle
April 30th, 2010 Capitol Hill Trip
She’s been with me all the way! 🙂
May 29th, 2011 Capitol Hill Trip
Our Awesome MA group!
Ralph’s first year with me!!!!
Yep, our Awesome MA Group, again!
And finally…. March 21st, 2012 Capitol Hill Trip
Our Awesome MA/ME group!
It had been a long haul….several years walking the Hill – and many were weary, fearing the legislation would never come to pass….but HOPE carried us….
On Wednesday, December 19th, 2012 – HR1845 passed in the House of Representatives by a vote of 401 to 3!
To say we were excited is an understatement! This is incredible news! I can’t even begin to tell you just how awesome it feels to be a part of something that’s bigger than me….to know that our efforts had an impact goes beyond what I can put in this blog. I don’t know if some of you realize just how hard it is to get existing law amended…but it’s extremely difficult, especially when you are a small disease population that is not well known (like Cancer, AIDS, Alzheimers, and so on).
Our heartfelt thanks go out to Senator Kerry and his incredible staff (Drew O’Brien, Megan Thompson, Ashley O’Neill and SO many others), especially for being our Champion on the Senate side of this legislation along with Sen. Alexander – for never giving up, never backing down, and never losing hope!
Of course, we had some incredible champions on the House side – Representatives Brady and Matsui worked tirelessly to gain support and raise awareness about our need.
We’d like to thank our local legislators who stood alongside Sen. Kerry in this legislation: Senator Scott Brown, Congresswoman Niki Tsongas, Congressman Keating, Congressman McGovern, Congressman Neal. Their support was critical to the success of this endeavor and there are NO words to express the depth of our gratitude.
Stepping out of my comfort zone and doing something that intimidated me: Worth It
Countless hours making phone calls, sending emails, and raising awareness for the need to have legislation supported and passed: Worth It
Several trips to Capitol Hill: Worth It
Waking up this morning and realizing that all the years of hard work with countless others dedicated to the same thing you were —-
it all came down to 2 votes: the House and Senate – and it passed with almost unanimous support: Worth It
Knowing you made a difference in the lives of those who need it most: Priceless.
Thank you to EVERYONE who was with us on this journey – all of my fellow friends with Primary Immunodeficiency Disease – YOU ARE WARRIORS and I’ll fight alongside you any day! Thank you to all my friends who didn’t have the disease but helped anyway…and most importantly, a HUGE Thank You to my family – for knowing how important this was to me and supporting it…helping with phone calls, awareness events, taking care of our kids when we needed to go to meetings with legislators or to Capitol Hill. I love you all! This couldn’t have been done without the help of each and every one of you!
I am SO PROUD of what we were able to accomplish together!
THANK YOU to Marcia Boyle, Lawrence A. LaMotte, Emily Hovermale, Colin Seal, Kathy Antilla, and ALL of the other folks at the Immune Deficiency Foundation who worked tirelessly to make this need become a reality! These people are tireless and pour their hearts into the patients, their needs, and their work. We are so blessed and fortunate to have these people in our corner fighting with and for us.
SO…the moral of the story is this: Don’t EVER think that you can’t do something because you’ve never tried it or don’t know how to do it….where there’s a will, there’s a way. AND, don’t EVER underestimate the power that ONE person has…….while I certainly was NOT the reason this legislation went through, I was a part of it….and that mattered!
The next few days I will be posting (hopefully) several blogs – there’s SO MUCH going on – I don’t want any of this good news to get lost in the shuffle!!!!
I hope you all had a Merry Christmas…..keep your eyes peeled for the next exciting tidbit of news….coming soon!
Christmas will be here in just a few days. The chaos of shopping, wrapping, cooking, cleaning and getting lost in the commercialism of it all is ALMOST over…
Soon, our children will be sleeping with visions of sugarplums dancing in their heads….
Awaiting the arrival of “Santa Claus” and a plethora of gifts – many of which they don’t even need.
Somehow, along the way….we’ve lost the true meaning and we’ve gotten sucked into the materialistic clutches of society.
Even the best of us get caught up in the tradition of shopping til we drop, giving more gifts than necessary, and pushing the true meaning on the back burner….
Over the next few days, I want to challenge you all to look a little deeper into yourselves – reconnect with the true meaning of Christmas…
And remember that this season is about the birth of our Savior and Lord, Jesus Christ.
And rethink how we can make this season more meaningful and less commercial….
This Christmas, may you find the true spirit of Christ all around you…and may you shine it for all the world to see.
May you find Love and Light and true Blessing this Christmas as we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ,